Advent Calendar Day 3: Old Friends
Welcome to the third day of the Dream Well advent calender! Today, I have a very special request – to write about “old friends” in dreams. What a wonderful symbol to find behind the window! Our friendships can define us. They can better us, and soothe us. Through our lasting friendships we learn compromise, we learn to give as well as receive graciously. So what does it mean when we dream about old friends? Is it just a feeling of nostalgia, or is it something more?
In previous posts I have written about other people in dreams, but when old friends appear, we can be sure that our dream is exploring something very meaningful. Old friends can symbolise a range of things, so we can start by looking at where the friendship started, or where it flourished and had a particularly strong and important stage. We can look at what lessons we may have learned at that particular time, and how those lessons may be important now. Are there common themes between that time and now? Did that friend offer a perspective, strength, support or insight that may be relevant today?
As well as looking at the time period of the friendship, we can look at the person themselves. If an old friend appears in our dreams, it can be a sign that we ourselves have adopted some of those qualities that friend has. What have you always admired and liked about your friend? Perhaps the time and friendship shared with this person has imparted a small part of their character to you. This is a marvelous gift! And it while the person in the dream is usually a reflection of our own inner selves, it would not be remiss to contact your friend and share what qualities you have identified as wonderful about them. They are likely to appreciate it, and your depth of understanding both about the dream, yourself and your friend are likely to increase.
These are all unique aspects of the dream that only you will be able truly understand. But we can add a further layer to the theme of “old friends” in dreams, and that is to consider a far more general concept of the passing of time, and a shared journey. Are there aspects of your own self you are making friends with, that perhaps you have battled with, or rejected in your younger years? Are you making a certain peace with yourself? Life passes by so quickly, and we can get distracted with so many things. But true friendship lasts through-out the years, and despite what changes and challenges life throws at us. Is this a dream encouraging you to stop and take note of what is most important in life? Old friend dreams come when we feel nostalgic, when we are questioning our age, our wisdom and the passing of innocence. Old friends in dreams bring up themes of longevity and continuity, of loss and compromise, of sharing, loyalty and the bonds that tie us.
Old friends in a dream remind us to appreciate the passing of time, to value our memories as well as our present. The life we are living today will become our memories of the future. Old friends in dreams urge us to love ourselves for who we really are, just as they do. They encourage us to be the best we can be, they offer love and support and sometimes great advice. But above all, old friends in dreams offer us acceptance. And that is one of the most wonderful gifts of all.
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